They deserve to feel confident enough to speak up, to set boundaries, and to prioritize their own comfort.
If I had been taught those things more clearly, I think my experience would have been very different.
I would have felt more prepared.
More aware.
More in control.
I would have understood that sex is not something you do “for someone else.” It’s something that should be mutual, respectful, and grounded in comfort. I would have known that it’s okay to take things slow, to ask for what you need, and to stop if something doesn’t feel right.
Instead, I went into it with uncertainty and assumptions.
I thought discomfort was normal.
I thought pain was expected.
I thought my role was to go along with it.
And that mindset made everything harder than it needed to be.
